If Allowances Are A Tool To Teach About Money, How Grandparents’ “Bank” Is Perfect

The Harris Poll recently did a survey for the American Institute of Certified Public Accountants about parents’ allowances for children, reported in the New York Times, October 5, 2019. The article title explains the results and concerns as a result: “Children’s Allowances Have Grown.  Why Not Savings? Parents Hand Out $30 a Week on Average, […]

The “Game Of Life” Has Changed Drastically Even For Our Early Elementary Grandchildren With More Choices Than We Boomer Grandparents Ever Imagined

The 50th Anniversary of “The Game Of Life” is considered the classic edition. The original game came out in 1960, when this Grandma was at the end of high school years, about to embark on my own game of life. I guess we Boomers are the classic edition. The “twists and turns” of life seemed […]

Remembering My Father and the Meaningfulness of How Many Years Ago He Passed

It is the tradition of our Jewish faith to remember the anniversary of the death of our loved ones by lighting a Yahrzeit memorial candle.* September 1 is the 30th Anniversary of my Father’s death. I lit a candle in his memory. He always used the phrase, “this is unbelievable.” It is unbelievable that he […]

A Spiritual Leader’s Recollected Life Lesson to Share with Grandchildren

The Catholic Priest gave this homily* at the funeral of a dear friend recently.  As he spoke, I recalled that I had heard this life lesson repeated several times before at different houses of worship told by spiritual leaders of many faiths.  Whether it is golf balls or rocks that are used in the story, […]

Because Everyone Has Something, There are Life Lessons to Pass on To Our Grandchildren

Great Grandmother (GG) Frieda, My Mother, a Holocaust survivor, who was taught Kabbalah by her Father, a Rabbi in the small shtetl (town) of Bransczczyk, Poland, had sayings she passed on to me. “Everyone has something.  Life is hard and then you die.”  She said, “Live every day as if it were your last day […]

Now That I Am in My Seventies I Understand Why No One Tells You the Truth About How To Optimize Life in Your Seventies

When I was about to hit seventy, GG Lee’s (Great Grandmother age 95) mantra was hitting home.  She said live your life to its fullest while you are “young old,” because when you hit “old old” at age 84 your life and health changes drastically and you do not want to or cannot travel or […]

How Preteen and Teenage Grandchildren Are Like Cats

Grandparenting preteens and teenagers is different than any other grandparenting stage. Grandparenting babies, whether a long distance or local, is intense. We have to follow the parents’ rules, whether strict or lax, or anything in between.  We must be very concerned about safety and do not want anything to go wrong on our watch.  Baby […]

How We Grandparents Can Share What Our Grandchildren Will Never Know Otherwise Part 1: Reading and Writing Cursive Is No Longer Taught to Our Grandchildren

When this Grandma was a child, I remember hearing about how some would mark their signature with an X because they could not read or write.  Having a unique cursive signature was important when I was a child, and even in my adulthood.  I went to my go to source, Wikipedia, for more information about […]

I am one of the Boomer Women Who Personally Experienced Discrimination “On The Basis of Sex”

I just saw the movie,“On the Basis of Sex,” and cannot share the “wow” moment in the movie for me without spoiling the movie for you. I am one of the Boomer women who personally experienced discrimination “on the basis of sex.” I know in my heart there are millions of us, with as many […]

Memorializing Family Rituals and Traditions in the New Year 2019

The last two years, this Grandma’s New Year’s posts have been heavy and emotionally taxing.  See post, 2018 New Year’s Resolutions Focusing on Feelings That Span A Lifetime Will Bring Us Joy 2018 New Year’s Resolutions Focusing on Feelings That Span A Lifetime Will Bring Us Joy   This year, two years into retirement from […]

We American Jews Must Now Not Only Be Vigilant As We Have Joined the Vulnerable Ranks of Our Worldwide Brethren Past and Present. We, and American Non Jews, Must Also Fight For Federal Laws That Make Anti-Semitic Talk And Action Illegal

It has been happening to Jews for many thousands of years. It has touched our family and we Jews, collectively and of my family, can never forget. To forget is to be vulnerable to anti-Semitic violence and we Jews have learned from history that we must always be vigilant. All of our grandchildren will know […]

As A Child of Holocaust Survivors, I Am Worried That History Is Repeating Itself

As a child of Holocaust survivors, I feel that my unique background and upbringing has been a blessing and a curse, probably like most of us who have felt different and with a higher sensitivity to the world around us. My upbringing has made me the “Pollyanna,” which those who know me would agree, that […]

Learning About Having #It All From Another Woman Who Has Had It All, But Not All At the Same Time

Justice of the United States Supreme Court Ruth Bader Ginsburg has said she believes women can have it all, but perhaps not all at the same time. She has attained the rank of American Female Superstar, and with her admission of what she has accomplished and what she has overcome, she thankfully has exposed what […]

Grateful for the Fathers In Our Lives This Father’s Day 2018 Seventy Years After the Holocaust

As I thought about this Father’s Day 2018, the year’s traumatic and potentially fatal health circumstances clearly highlighted thoughts of gratitude for the fathers in our lives. What came to mind are two related sayings: You don’t know what you have until it is gone.  Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought […]

Who Would Believe “Good Old Days” Would Be So Perfectly Described By a Thirty Four Year Old in Collaboration With a Thirty One Year Old

Once our grandchildren began listening to pop music on the radio, and it was earlier than we realized, this Grandma convinced Grandpa that we too had to listen to pop.  Since our eldest grandson is fourteen, we have been listening to pop for nearly six years.  Occasionally, we go back to music of the sixties […]

Our Choice of Bread Defines Where We have Come From, Who We Are, and Sometimes Who We Aspire To Be

Our eleven year old granddaughter, visiting for spring break, asked for a sandwich. Ever the doting grandmother, I had purchased three different kinds of breads to have for her to choose from. I was not surprised with her selection, and with the ease of her making it. As I cut slices from the whole loaf […]

We Grandparents Are Role Models For Civics and Civility And Good Manners To Our Grandchildren And More

I grimace and shake my head every time I am stopped at a crosswalk and a person with earbuds staring at his or her phone walks into the street without even looking up. Or the person is before me in the supermarket line paying without looking up at the cashier or anyone but the screen […]

2018 New Year’s Resolutions Focusing on Feelings That Span A Lifetime Will Bring Us Joy

For New Years 2017, this Grandma wrote “2017 New Year’s Resolutions Focusing on Feelings That Span A Lifetime Will Bring Us Joy.”  When I sat down to write this year’s message, the draft mirrored 2017.  I realized that sharing the 2017 feelings was a most overwhelming task for me, and opened up on memories that […]

How to Make Shopping in the Mall with Grandchildren of All Ages and Sexes a Pleasurable Experience

When our daughters were small, they hated going shopping with me.  It was a chore for them to accompany me, even if it was for clothing for them.  Even toy shopping was met with groans and complaints that I did not need them with me when I had a list.  I was surprised, as I […]

This Grandma Says Always Go To The Parent of Your Grandchildren Who Is Your Child First About Any Issue To Have the Most Access To and The Best Relationship With Your Grandchildren

This Grandma has several mantras, which you can see by reviewing the archives of this blog.     Grandparenting should be all joy and no responsibility. See the first post on this blog, “How to be the Best Grandma in the World with the Most Joy and Least Responsibility.” Another mantra is to honor the gatekeepers, the […]